When I was younger
I was always careful not to burn bridges. Having grown older and wiser I now know that burning bridges is necessary so I don’t go back to those places I should never visit to begin with.
I’m not obligated to be the same person I was last year, last month, yesterday, a minute ago. I’m consistently changing to who I need to be regardless of anyone’s preference. The sooner everyone realizes this, the better we’ll get along.
What would people do if they realize that someone’s cherished memory of them is fading? Would they quickly say hello, drop a note or make that phone call? Does that explain the sudden way some people in our past try to become relevant again when we least expect it? I guess it’s this simple... others can’t help but linger when they feel they’re going to be forgotten even if they willingly left in the first place.
Fingertip to fingertip
Skin against skin
We hold hands on paper.
Thoughts to words
Caress the heart.
In love letters
We are together.
Captured and enslaved
We are by what we write
We live and die
With & without each other.
Dreams now shattered
Futures left behind
We only exist
In our love letters.
Tears hesitated to
trickle down my face
upon remembering how much I’ve loved you.
Fighting the confusion
between joy and sorrow
my heart, warm yet cold
struggled to stay alive.
Soul in exile, a battle won and war lost,
I beget freedom.
There is true freedom
in knowing I have
no love left to give you.
Something to think about...
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength.
Loving someone deeply gives you courage.
What would you prefer?
Finding peace is having to let go of your connection to people, things and places that make all the noise in your life. How badly do you want it?
To see the change I desperately need I have to start with myself. Nothing others do is because of me. What they say is a reflection of their own reality. To be immune to their words and actions I will not suffer needlessly. I cannot allow myself to take things personally.
This I have to believe everyday.
I now have to tiptoe in the presence of some people because god forbid I look like I have a thought it’s against them. Whatever I do or don’t do, i’m doing something wrong. It’s exhausting. If there was a way for me to completely vanish out of thin air I’d have done it already.
I’d like to be left alone in the very little space I occupy but even that is asking too much. I’m slowly getting stripped of my right to exist quietly.
Why is it that some people insist on not allowing others to have an opinion and yet they force theirs on others?
When some people are hellbent on putting blame on someone for their misery the questions they ask sound accusatory. It never sounds like they’re asking because they no longer control their tone. If that blame lands on you there’s no escape. All of a sudden, you become a person with no integrity because you are now guilty even if you are innocent. I wonder how they’d react if they become the poor bastard that you are now?
Imagine how big of a blow it was when I was told to mind my own business. It’s the very same people who habitually drag my peace-seeking life into their business affecting it horribly. I know one thing. I cannot sit calmly doing nothing about situations that I did not agree to be part of. It’s interesting when my actions affect those same people in response to the way I’ve been treated. They have the audacity to face me not thinking of all the fucking times I have been forcefully put in the center of their problems. These people are self-centered and selfish. Some more than others. I know my place. I distance myself. Soon I will be accused of indifference. In their eyes I become unloving and...
When someone you know reaches out to you hoping they can comfort you, be careful what you say. Well-meaning as they are, they might not be equipped to handle what you’re about to say. People are good generally offering words like “talk to me”. Be careful... be very careful.
I observe myself religiously. My thoughts and emotions, I check them. When I do this, I pass no judgement on whatever they are. I allow them to come out so I can process each one. As dark as some thoughts can be, that’s all they are... thoughts I’ve observed myself think. Not everyone understands this. I know well that thoughts can become actions. I am aware. When I’m trying to observe to process I’m mindf...
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It’s Monday morning and a new day has begun. Be careful what you tolerate... it’s how you train people how to treat you.
Set the tone of your day. All it takes is one small positive thought.
Don’t let anyone define who you are. Know that you are a person of substance. You are worthy. The world is a brighter place with you in it.
Change is the one constant in your life. Embrace what’s in front of you and accept that change is good.
You are loved.
I got up this morning and had forgotten that I no longer look the same. I walked past my mirrored closet doors and saw a lean woman with short blonde hair. My skin is dramatically darker. I look athletic without the bulk, free-spirited with a purposeful walk. My messy hair could be mistaken for a particular style but I really just rolled out of bed. When I leave to go to the water, layers and layers of hair product will slick each strand back to protect it from damage as I bathe the rest of me in sunblock. Taking a moment to observe and notice the difference, this blondeness in contrast to my deep tan doesn’t look bad. I’m still me with less to fuss with...
I was told to embrace the fact tha...
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Sundays are for reflection...
I observe a lot and leave it at that because judging is quite exhausting and unnecessary... but it's not easy. Living a simple and quiet life seems effortless when I keep to myself but my world does not allow it. Although I manage to weave through what’s irrelevant to me, shit finds me. There’s nowhere to hide when people have a mission to make everyone else as miserable as they are. One could be at home enjoying a restful day needed and... people do not realize that maybe, just maybe my world does not revolve around theirs. I have better things to do with my precious time and for others that’s the least of their worries.
I often tell my grown children, “Be...
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Sundays are for reflection...
Looking forward to Sunday I keep my excitement contained. Two minutes out of Pilates class I head to get a cup of tea and a blueberry muffin. The day has started like all the other days these past few months. Bright mornings, calm afternoons and quiet evenings I’ve immensely enjoyed. I have been taking care of myself and have found ways for my mind and body to stay connected, in-sync and balanced. It’s becoming effortless to maintain. I realize that once one finds that center, no matter what, the link to that happy place never gets severed. Although the hard line might somehow get slightly dusty, perhaps fade or even get almost erased, an imprint remains beneat...
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